Hi, I’m Wilder.

Hey, I'm Wilder (them/her) founder of The PAQ. I’m a queer, poly-passionate facilitator, and licensed school counselor with 18 years of multinational youth work experience and leadership. I was raised by the East Coast, (Massachusetts) and have lived across the US and in Toronto, Canada working in youth and community care-centered spaces. I’m a Bridgewater State University (BA) and Providence College (MEd) alumna with coast-to-coast coaching and curating experience. I’m an introverted Aquarius, rescue dog mom, and snack enthusiast who currently lives in the woods of Maryland.

I leverage my passion and expertise in summer camp magic, SEL strategies, and radical compassion to create resources for cultivating affirming learning spaces and pollinate LGBTQIA+ connections through queer bliss spaces.

While living in the borderlands of Arizona I lived alongside two wolves, Anubis and Feliz. Both the wolves and borderlands nurtured my belief in the power of the wolf pack and pack mentality; Everyone is cared for. Everyone is looked after. Everyone has a role. This is the vision for The PAQ and my hope for our world. I believe in a softer, sweeter humanity and believe it starts with how we care about each other.

I care deeply about building joyful and welcoming spaces for people to show up fully to learn, to play to celebrate, and to be cared for.

Rooted in queer kinship, cultivating spaces that hold us all.

For me, a paq means a lifeline, a tether to bliss, and a source for imaginative dreaming and doing.

Join the paq

𖡡 The Queer Moon Cabaret - York, PA
𖡡 Queer Camp Day- Suny Corning Community College
𖡡 Vintage Queer -Vanderbilt Univeristy, TN
𖡡 MA Alliance of Boys & Girls Clubs Summer Conference- Billerica, MA
𖡡 The LGBTour BGCD - Dorchester, MA
The LGBTour URI - Kingston, RI

“It is obvious you are smart and talented, but you are a rare soul and I was moved by your compassion and dedication to taking care of our children, who are often overlooked. The world is becoming more aggressive and people are in danger of physical harm. We have to offer protection and change. Thank you for EVERYTHING!”
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“She was terrific! I think that was the best professional development day we have had since I have been here. I hope Tina can come back for further training.”
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“What an amazing day of learning, evolving, and growing. Today was incredibly timely and meaningful for our students, our community, and ourselves.”
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“I just want to thank you for such a powerful presentation today! Your passion and expertise certainly gained you a fan club! I am already asking when we can have you come back so we can continue the momentum and enrich our school culture with more knowledge and understanding.”
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“Thank you so much for visiting our class yesterday. It was honestly one of the best workshops that I have attended. I am so grateful to have been a part of it.”